How to coffee chat

hey :)

Most senior managers are simply flooded with messages, so it’s normal not to hear back. The easiest way is to keep it very short, very specific, and make it as easy as possible for them to say yes. Mention a concrete reason why you’re reaching out, one clear question you would love their view on, and propose two time slots. People respond much more when they feel it’s not an open-ended “can we chat?” but a tiny, low-effort ask.

Often it also helps to start with consultants or managers in the same practice or geography, and then get warm intros to seniors. Cold messaging senior managers rarely works, even inside the firm.

If you want, send me your message and I can help you tweak it.
best, Alessa :)

Hi there,

Totally normal as senior managers get swamped, so low response rates aren’t a reflection of you. A couple things that usually help:

• Keep it super short and specific (why you’re reaching out + one clear question).
• Mention something concrete you’re curious about (their project type, career path, practice focus).
• Follow up once after a week — light and friendly.

You’re not doing anything wrong; it’s mostly a volume and timing game. Try to attend any in-person events as well, where stickiness is higher.

Hi there,

I think it would help to clarify why you would like to chat with them, as they probably don't have a lot of time. Alternatively, you could propose to help them on tasks or a project that you also find interesting for you. That way you would get to spend time together, you could learn from them and they would be more inclined to have a chat with you since you have helped them out. Sometimes building strong relationships and mutual trust takes time and effort but then it's worth it!