Hello!

I used to struggle with the same thing, and it´s true you need to be carefull since, without wanting so, you can come across as rather cocky and overconfident.

There is no easy recipie for this, but only the fact that you are already aware is good news. Try to be extra careful and measure all the time the reactions from the interviewer.

Hope it helps!

Cheers,

Clara

If you are getting feedback on coming across as arrogant then that can be a sign of 'self-orientation'. This means during the interview you are focussed on getting your point across and either ignore non-verbal cues from your interviewer, talk too much or interrupt them

Solution - come across as a listener. Take frequent pauses to allow your interviewer to prompt you or give feedback. Prepare good questions for your interviewer that are positive example what is your favorite project, what was your professional highlight in the last year etc. Basically make sure you give your interviewer time to speak as well

Can I also suggest 1-2 sessions with a coach? You do not want to risk over-thinking feedback from other candidates

Hi Anonymous,

I am afraid there is no KPI on how to measure that and differentiate between those 2 sides.

If you tend to be overly confident, a good thing to keep in the back of your mind is to always assume that there might be something you don't fully understand and know - so instead of making universal statements from your side which might make you looking arrogant, better try to have engaging conversations by leading the conversation with questions.

However, to really balance between the two sides you need feedback and being open to that. I guess it's not a one-off thing to do but it's more like a process of adapting your behaviour towards the norm. This might or might not be related to what you say ("the what") - that might be also related only to the way you say it (the "how"). Any seasoned interviewer and expert can work with you on that to adjust along the way.

Hope that helps nevertheless - if so, please be so kind and give it a thumbs-up with the green upvote button below!

Robert

Dear A,

As other experts said - being aware of these is already a big step forward.

Next thing I would recommend you here is to notice this feelings and internal conditions in a further practice. What is it about? Whay do you feel this? My be you

Showing an arrogant might be in a situation when you feel lack of confidence, and try to show it artificially. Please, don't take it personal. But I would recommend you to think what are those fundamentals that gives you real confidence? May be it's pactice, knowledge, mentoring, support from the people that matters. Find your recipie of confidence.

If you need any further help of advice, feel free to reach out.

Best,

André

Hi there,

Great question!

Strong beliefs, loosely held

As a consultant, you do need to come in with a view, but you also need to listen.

So, I recommend that, while you should still hypothesize and state your view, make sure that you practice active listening and are eager/willing to pivot your position based on new information and guidance.

Remember, if the interview is telling you to look somewhere else, or questioning you, mor likely than not, they're trying to guide not challenge you. So, be adaptable/flexible :)

When being interviewed, you are expected to tell stories and experiences of yourself that showcase your talents and abilities. In this part of the interview, it is alright to boast a bit and show why you are the best candidate for a specific role.

However, if you have been told that you can come across as arrogant, a good trick to try and counteract this is to listen closely to any feedback or information that your interviewer gives you and apply it in the conversation. If you can show your interviewer that you are learning from their feedback and actually listening to and applying the knowledge they are sharing with you, this is the best way to come across as someone who has strong abilities but is willing to listen to feedback to continuously improve.

If you are interested in improving your communication and problem-solving skills. I would recommend you to have a look at https://leap-pro.strategycoglobal.com/. It is a 4-weeks interactive course for aspiring management consultants with the goal of equipping participants with the skills of high-performing industry consultants while interacting and learning from peers with similar skill sets.

Hi there,

Sometimes it happens when a candidate would like to be assessed higher and be the best candidate. In this case the line between self-confidence and arrogance goes away.

I would recommend you don’t try to be the best, be yourself and don’t overestimate yourself.

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