Navigating diversity/ LGBTQ

Hey there, 

I would not worry about this at all and I can assure you that nobody would believe that you 'tricked the system'. You have not been made an offer because of your affiliation to LGBTQ+ but because of your performance during the interviews.

Besides, even if you are dating a female right now, I assume you would still be actively involved in the community. So I do not see any reason why anybody should be upset. Also, your personal life is exactly that - personal. Nobody at MBB will interfer with that, at least I have never experienced it. 

Best, 
Sebastian

Hi there,

this is a great question and I have witnessed an identical situation myself during my time at MBB.

First of all, the LGBTQ community is a very open and tolerant community. People from this community know that bisexual means one can "seem" heterosexual during periods of time.

Second, even if you accept the offer and you want to actively engage in the LGBTQ community, you will not necessarily tell all the people about your relationship status. You identify as "LGBTQ" and this is why you want to be part of it. Full stop.

Third, don't be too pessimistic about "why" you are hired. You are hired because of your skills, not your sexual orientation.

Hope that helps. If you are interested in further Information, feel free to write a private message.

Best, Birgit 

Hey there,

We all know how hard it is to get into MBB. The process is so rigorous and no-one gets in through "favours" or anything like that.. You get in by merit and by the performance in interviews... So if you're in, then you earned it. There wont be any bad blood 

Also, (with the example of McKinsey) - there are many allies and friends of the LGBTQ community that are not themselves in the LGBTQ community. No-one takes this as them gaming the system, and I can assure you that no-one will think that of you.

So really, don't worry about it! You're fine :-) 

All the best

Offers are not made or rescinded based on your LGBTQIA status. It is all based on proven ability as assessed during the interview process. I would not worry about it at all.

Hi there,

Congrats on the offer!

Agree with Udayan and Thabang. Don't worry about it or overthink this!

All the best with your start. :-)

Cheers,

Florian

Hey there ?, first off, congrats on your MBB offer! And just to be clear—you don’t owe anyone an explanation for how you identify or who you're dating. Bisexuality is valid no matter who you’re in a relationship with at any given time.

How to Navigate This Smoothly:

1️⃣ Stay True to Yourself – If you feel comfortable, remain involved in the LGBTQ+ network. Your past engagement wasn’t performative—you joined because it mattered to you, and that hasn’t changed.

2️⃣ Address It Only If Needed – If someone (rudely) questions your identity, you can casually reaffirm that you’re bisexual without over-explaining. A simple, “I’ve always identified as bi” is enough.

3️⃣ Understand That People Move In & Out of Networks – It’s common for people to engage with LGBTQ+ groups at different levels over time, depending on life circumstances and comfort. You’re not alone in this.

4️⃣ Own Your Story with Confidence – Your identity is yours, and MBB firms are generally very inclusive and professional. No one will be monitoring your dating life, and the best people will simply support you.

At the end of the day, you belong in that space regardless of who you’re dating. Stay authentic, and don’t let this stress take away from your excitement about starting your new role!

Best,
Alessa ?

Hi there, 

Don't worry about it. MBB recruit people based on their performance, not on the DEI agenda. If you didn't pass the bar, they wouldn't have offered you. There is no "gaming the system" with DEI. 

You don't need to disclose anything about your relationship status, either. Even non-LGBTQ person can still be active in LGBTQ+ network. It is about being inclusive, not about creating a separate non-inclusive group. Similarly, in Bain, we have men as "man-bassador" in the Women at Bain activities. 

So do't overthink this. Enjoy the win and best luck for the new job. 

Best,

Emily

You are who you are, and that is ok. I doubt you were selected based on your sexual orientation, and that there will be any bad blood based on that.