Hey there,

Three tips to cover all the points you raised:

1. Focus on genuine mutual benefits & trust. Put them first before you & remove the pressure of proving yourself every 30 secs. They will extend favours automatically. Thats just how good humans are. As long as you dont come across as agenda oriented or selfish too early on, you will be fine.
2. Give yourself enough time-sometimes weeks if not months for the relationship to grow
3. Pitch yourself and express your asks in a natural way and time this correctly. Read the situation and act accordingly- sometimes you may have to get to the point in the first meeting

Have a look at these threads too for some related tips:

• https://www.preplounge.com/en/consulting-forum/networking-should-you-ever-pitch-yourself-8552
• https://www.preplounge.com/en/consulting-forum/how-do-i-become-confident-in-fit-interviews-or-during-networking-calls-how-do-i-stop-rambling-8337
• https://www.preplounge.com/en/consulting-forum/how-to-create-chemistry-with-the-interviewer-8271

I broadly agree with Ian. Finding a small handful of people where there is genuine mutual interest and connection is much more meaningful beyond quantity and seniority. At McKinsey, I found a huge spectrum with consultant/partner's interest in mentoring and helping candidates succeed and so there's also some luck associated. I've not heard of firms who explicitly tell their partners not to connect with candidates who reach out to them but many won't have any incentive to network with you beyond their personal goodwill.

For your case specifically, being upfront with your intentions might be helpful. If you don't intend to apply soon then it's worth thinking about why someone would find it meaningful to network with you now as opposed to later. Unfortunately these networking relationships are transnational in nature and so you need to just make the most of the timing (e.g., I have a round 1 interview coming up, could I get some advice).

Hello there!

Networking naturally may come difficult and following the advice from that career book doesn't seem to be natural at all. It may bother people, because they usually know what it's all about.

It is important to find some commonalities and the fact that you didn't find a way to approach may mean that you just haven't found any.
It definitely would take some time, but if you are going to apply 1 or 2 years from now, don't rush. Spend this time wisely - visit events where you can meet such people.

That the quality of the relationships is over quantity and superiority in this case.

Hope it helps.
GB

Hello!

If you want to apply in 1-2 yeras, I would not start now. It´s a but surreal to think that you can keep the connection with super busy people who don´t know you for that long.

Hope it helps!

Cheers,

Clara

Hi,

I think the ultmate goal is to have a referral into the firms.

From my personal experience, if I don't have shared interest then regular email or catch up won't work. It is not easy to network with people of the same interest unless you join an organization / activities where you have genuine interest (e.g. motorcycling, bicycling, painting)

However, if from our first interaction you showed that you are a potential candidate (e.g. smart, interesting experience) you do not need to connect with me regularly for me to get a referral.

Best,
Iman