I’d like some practical advice, particularly if you’ve gone through something similar. I’m very self-aware which is great because I can realize when there is something I need to change, but I need help with implementation. I’m a talker. I am often silent/quiet/etc. and work independently, but when I get into a nice conversation I notice (and I’m sure others do too) that I talk too much. I’m good at asking questions, listening fully, and engaging with the other person, but I often feel that I dominate the conversation. I believe this stems from spending a lot of time in my younger years with people with whom a conversation would never flow.
When networking with people from MBBa at events I’m often told something like “It’s really been nice talking with you today, most of the other conversations I’ve had have been 20 questions, like trying to pull teeth” and I easily make good connections in person. I know I’m a good conversationalist, but I would like to learn to be more concise and not ramble, and I know this is key to being a consultant, especially in interviews/meetings/with clients/etc.
For example, if I am telling a story I would like to be concise and clear, whereas now I am that person where my mind makes sense (to me) but often throws in little (predominantly irrelevant) side stories that are unnecessary. I’m trying very hard to be conscious of this, but if anyone else has dealt with something similar I’d love to know how.
I have several telephone informational interviews set up later this week and want to do my best, and any tips would be welcome. I really want to improve this aspect of my personality as it would help both my professional and personal life, and I appreciate the advice.