Should I tell my boss which firm I will join?

Hi,

I agree with Andrea.

You shouldn't worry about badmouthing...people have more important things in their lives than to worry about ruining yours.

Additonally, I personally wouldn't feel weird about telling people (if they ask). That being said, treat it as a case-by-case basis. If you feel like answering their question, do so. If not, I like Andrea's approach.

Dear A,

In general, I would rather advise you to keep this information in confidence. So no need to explicitly to tell to all your colleagues. The fact that partner and senior partner know where are you heading to, it's already enough. To another colleges you can tell that you are going to one of the competitors and this will be visible on your LinkedIn profile after you approbation period is over. And also, ask them also for understanding of this.

Also try not to speak too much about this topic and simply be careful in your transition situation. After your approbation period, it will not matter what your previous colleagues are talking or thinking about you. I wish you best of luck in your career transition.

If you need any advice on how to make this move successful, feel free to reach out, and I'm happy to share my experience with you.


Good luck,
André

Agree with Andrea and Ian that the partner and senior partner are not very likely to bad-mouth you or even spread the info. They might just want to know where you are going and whether your new company could be a potential client.

As per other ex-colleauges, don't feel bad to tell people that "I will tell you later after I start". It is very common, and nothing odd about it.

best,

Emily

Hello,

in most cases former employers with whom it did not go well does not enjoy saying bad things for the sake of harm.

If the mood was right, you don't have to worry. And you can ask someone else to refer you , not necessarily directly the person with whom it did not go well.

Best

Hi Anonymous,

It's understandable that this situation is of concern to you - however I strongly believe that your encounter with the senior partner won't have a negative influence for 2 main reasons.

1) They have busy lifes and your career move will be out of the conscious mind by now, probably already when they focused on their next task at hand immediately after your meeting.

2) I don't see any personal gain or advantage that badmouthing would give the senior partner - so why should he do that at all? (apart from ethical concerns)

Hope that helps - if so, please be so kind and give it a thumbs-up with the green upvote button below!

Robert

Hi there,

thanks for sharing your story. I agree with Andrea that it would be safer not to reveal where you are moving yet to other colleagues. You don’t have a confirmed offer yet, thus you would not be lying saying you are still in the process with some options.

Best,

Francesco

Hello!

No way the seniors are going to bad-mouth about you with others, they just can´t be bothered. Furthermore, they were not the ones who had an issue with you.

For the rest, don´t worry too much, since even if they do, should not impact you. In any cse, don´t feel forced to tell them where you are going. Say you are still deciding.

Hope it helps!

Cheers,

Clara