Reference check dilemma

Question

I’m at the final stage for a very interesting niche consulting firm after a successful interview process. They have now requested two references from former direct managers.

I spent three years at my previous consulting firm. During a difficult personal period, my performance suffered, and my employment ultimately ended involuntarily.

Throughout the recruitment process, when HR and senior interviewers asked why I left, I said that it was a personal choice and I wanted time to reflect before my next career move. I did not explicitly disclose the dismissal because I was advised that, in my European country, standard employment verification generally confirms employment dates rather than the reason for an employment termination.

I have one former manager who has agreed to provide a fair and likely neutral to positive reference (but also afraid he could hint at dismissal but I don’t think so). My only realistic second reference was involved in managing me during my difficult period and the end of my employment. I am concerned his feedback could be significantly negative (I worked with him in my first year and did outsdanding however I struggled significantly after and he acted distant and wanted me out). I contacted him several days ago, but he hasn’t replied yet

My dilemma is therefore:

If he agrees to be a reference: Should I provide his contact details, or could a negative reference significantly damage my chances of receiving the offer? Would it be better to proceed with only one reference?
If he doesn’t respond or refuses: I genuinely have no other suitable references. What should I tell HR, particularly given that providing only one reference after three years at my previous firm might raise questions?

Thank you !

Answer 1

hey there :)

I would not provide the second manager’s details without first knowing that he is actually willing to give you a reference. A potentially negative reference can absolutely hurt at this late stage, so I would not take that risk just to satisfy a “two references” requirement.

If he does not respond or declines, I’d be transparent with HR and explain that, after three years at the firm, your available former managers are limited, but you can provide another senior colleague or manager who worked closely with you. One strong reference is much better than two references where one could actively undermine your application.

I also wouldn’t proactively disclose the dismissal now unless they specifically ask. However, make sure you don’t make any further statements that could be interpreted as misleading. If HR asks directly about the circumstances of your departure, answer honestly but keep the explanation brief and focus on what has changed since then.

Given that you performed very well during your first year, I’d also try to identify someone else from that period who can credibly speak about your work, even if they weren’t your direct manager.

If you have more questions, happy to help!

best,
Alessa :)