Hello,

First of all, agree that you should be proud of yourself for reaching that level, and you'll have many more moments ahead of you in consulting to feel the same way.

I just can't help but feel too inadequate. Is this normal? 

• You should never feel inadequate because you feel like you have different interests, aspirations, or come from a different background/social class
• Your self-worth should definitely not be defined by MBB,

How do I acclimate better?

Some great suggestions by other coaches already. I will just add 2 more points

1. If you are at MBB, it is likely that there are people who are similar to you, given the size of these firms. Try and get to know as many people as you can - you probably will find like-minded souls
   • If you wanted to, you could also try networking outside your immediate office
2. In the event that you really cant find a group of friends at MBB, I don't think its the end of the world
   • You can still perform well on the job and you will be graded to your case performance, not your social affiliation
   • Yes you may have less of an internal support system, but you could also find support outside of the firm
   • I've known many consultants who's best and true friends are not in consulting, and the friends they make at MBB are mostly superficial/acquaintances 

It is not an easy situation to be in, given you are a new junior joiner. What I've learnt over the years - be true to yourself and eventually you'll find who matters and who doesn't 

Thanks for sharing your experience. 
As a first generation student working at McKinsey, I faced some of the same challenges. It gets better over time. A lot of people deal with the imposter syndrome. Some specific things you could do to address the issue: 

- find like-minded colleagues: e.g. at McKinsey, I was involved in setting up an informal affinity network for first-gen students

- talk to your managers about situations that make you feel uncomfortable - they are usually happy to support your

- stay true to yourself: Especially in client situations it can be an incredible asset to be “the normal person” that is down-to-earth and approachable

- suggest non-elite team activities: I went trough my fair share of luxury restaurant dinners, but I also suggested activities such as attending a football game

All the best for your time at your MBB Firm. You have earned the right to be there! 

Kind regards,
Mathias

I can relate to your question and felt in a similar way when I started out. 

In my experience, there is the “official” side of people and the more “private” and genuine side. The former you will have a lot at office or company events/gatherings where often a lot of management team members are around. So everyone feels like they need to act like peacocks showing off their feathers. 

The latter is more in small group interactions (e.g. when staffed on a project together) and for me that was the way to actually get to know people and build connections. Try out starting conversations around topics that interest you and see who chimes in - you can go from there. There is only so much one can rave about restaurants. 

Hello,

Fully agree with Ian. Additionally, I would like to point out that this is also a bit linked to age. Business Analysts and Consultants and some ELs are usually young, single who have come into money. They are not too family oriented (i.e. no wife/kids etc). I have observed that as you grow older in the firm, 1) you can find people whose company you enjoy 2) you also grow in designation and thus the people you hangout with are also typically managers/principals - who are much more settled in their personal life. 

Hang in there and good luck

Hi there,

First of all, you're not alone. A lot of consultants feel dragged into a lifestyle that isn't really “them”. 

You can try to:

- Separate between work and personal life (you can get your fair share of actual topics you like with groups of friends and outside work)

- Find yourself people who are like you (again, you're not alone and with time, you'll meet some consultants or colleagues who you can relate to, you just need 2-3 of those and you're set)

- Be yourself. Do not feel like you need to get molded into a certain character to make it. Build your own personality and stick to your roots as this is what people would appreciate in the long run

Mario

Hey,

Your observations are fairly accurate and a lot of people face similar challenges. What you dont want to do is to blow this out too much for yourself- emotionally & self worth wise. 

You are in that firm because you deserve to be there. You dont necessarily have to play the game that everyone else is playing. Be yourself, be unique and create your own rules. Of course, you dont want to come across as a “social outcast” or “too alienated”, so balance this out. Focus on doing high quality work, getting great client feedback and believe me, none of the rest will matter much.

The bigger question is whether this particular firm and consulting in general are the right FIT for you. For this please have a look this article for more guidance- https://www.preplounge.com/en/articles/how-do-i-know-which-career-is-right-for-me

All the best.